What should I know before
I post? This site exist to help
addictions, alcoholics, and their love ones. In doing so, we
support total abstinence for the addict and alcoholic while
offering our support and understanding.
For family and love ones of the addicts and alcoholics we offer
support, guidance, and information while offering a place to share your
experience with those that understand. If
you have never posted here before and your first post is responding to someone's post,
you should add a post introducing yourself to the group. On your first post reponding to someone and no one knows who you are,
you will first get a response from the site's owner inviting you to
introduce yourself. If you fail to do so, any future post regardless of
how helpful is subject to deletion.
What should I expect after I post? Others will read your post and post
a response. People will share their experience, feedback, and
suggestion. While our goal is to help, sometimes the feedback you
will receive will be difficult to accept. But, we believe it is
important to be honest and truthful but never forgetting the goal is to
help.
Is my post kept
in confidence and do I need to register? You post will immediately
appear on the site for all to read. Those that have signed up to
receive updates will receive in their email an alert of a new post.
What you say in your post is open for anyone that comes to the site, so
confidentially actually does not exist but anonymity does. Therefore,
using an alias is fine. While you are free to use your actually
name or an alias of your choice, what ever name you use
originally, it is best to continue with that name so people can keep
track of who it is they are responding to. There is no
registration needed to post.
Do I have to add my email address where asked?
No. But, you will not be able to be contacted if there is a problem with your post. Also, you will not receive a notice that someone has responded to your post. If you do not want to add your email, it is strongly suggested that you at least sign up for daily updates.
Can I
post what ever I want? While we support freedom of
expression and offer this site as a place to openly discuss your
feelings , opinions, and thoughts there has to remain some do's and
don'ts . It is not ok to:
Name call, make racist statements, purposely insult others, instigative
arguments, add links to your site in your post without first emailing
the owner of the site at growing_spiritually@yahoo.com first.
It is not ok to post under the name "anonymous" which happens if you
fail to add a name in the name box. It is
ok to: Disagree, have a difference of opinion, get upset
etc. as long as you can do it respectfully and within the guidelines of
this site. Often we become friends and care about one another,
therefore posting to see about a friend is fine or a brief conversation
that is off task is fine. Remember that this is not a free-for-all
message board or chat site, it is a place to help and seek help.
It is ok to post a link in your response if it is responding to someone
that is seeking information and you know a site that provides
information on the subject. Caution, if it looks as if you are
promoting your site or someone else's your post may be deleted. Who decides what post is
deleted? Only the owner of this site has the
administrative privilege to access the area of the site where deleting
is possible. So, the owner decides. Deleting is rare and
has only happened 3 times in this sites existence. Censorship is
not the goal, but integrity of the site is.
What happens if my post is deleted?
Basically, your post no longer appears on the site. If in your post you added your email address where it is
asked, you will be notified by the owner of this site that your post
is being deleted and why. This does not ban you from the site or
restrict you from future posting.
Aren't
there to many guidelines for this site? Time will tell.
I would love not to have any, but I feel it is unfair to have them in
my head and only let you know you violated a guideline after the
fact. Most of the guidelines are common courtesy and people have
followed them for years before they were written.
